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why aren't all midlife women told these facts?
Fact #1: Your kids are not your purpose.
When I became a mum, I applied my 'all or nothing' mindset to raising my kids. I went all-in on breastfeeding... co-sleeping... cloth nappies... baby-led weaning... the works.
Yes, I was a hyper-competitive mum.
Come to think of it - I was bit of a wanker.
But all that single-mindedness came back to bite me when I wound up, exhausted and driven half-mad with fatigue, anxiety & loneliness, for so much of my early mum years.
I've realised that I thought my kids had to be my purpose. But they're not - they're just part of a bigger picture.
So don't put that pressure on yourself. Or on them.
Besides, you know the freedom that comes with being crystal clear on your mission...
It's just time to awaken your new purpose for what's next.
Fact #2: Pursuing a goal is how you access flow state.
No goals. No flow state.
So please - and I definitely made this mistake when I became a mum - don't stop setting goals for yourself.
Fact #3: Competition is not a dirty word.
Society tells women 'you're too competitive'. Tone it down a notch. Especially if you're a mum!
But the truth about competition is - you need it to thrive.
And you don't need to be competing in formal events, even against other people (although a bit of friendly competition never went astray).
Even just competing against yourself to be 1% better each day will give your confidence a massive boost.
Fact #4: You've been trained to make sacrifices.
For your kids. For your work. For the greater good.
But if you've ever wondered - when's your time coming?
Because there are no prizes for martyrdom.
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But what if your greatest achievement could be to have a beautiful family AND still be smashing physical goals?
Fact #5: Time is all you have.
There is literally no such thing as 'not having enough time'. Even though we hear it everywhere.
I have 24 hours in a day... Serena Williams has 24 hours in a day... Oprah has 24 hours in a day... and so do you.
So it's never a question of not having time.
Only a question of - is it important enough to you?
Here's why it's hard to prioritise your wellbeing.
It's simply because society has conditioned you to value productivity over your own wellbeing.
And sure, it’s not a bad life.
But it just might not be the life you'd dreamed of when you were younger.
And in a quiet moment - perhaps in the middle of the night - you wonder…
Where have the years gone… And when will your time come?
You’re ready and willing to discover your true purpose and passions for this next stage of your life.
So perhaps you start taking action. Perhaps you start making a positive change for your health, like exercising, or drinking less, or cutting back on Netflix. But between juggling all your other responsibilities it can feel like fighting an uphill battle.
It’s almost enough to drive you wild with frustration and despair, knowing in your heart that you’re not where you want to be, physically or mentally, but you're not quite sure what to change.
This can end now.
I'll show you the exact 3-step process I take my clients through to discover their core values and refocus their goals so they can start reclaiming their energy, confidence and purpose.
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Hi, I'm jen
I'm a health and motivation coach, PhD physiotherapist, and behaviour change researcher.
I help midlife women rediscover their 20-year old energy so they can live their healthiest life.
I’ve published over 50 peer-reviewed articles in scientific journals, and I’ve coached over 150 women to achieve their health goals.
In my 17-year career, one question has bugged me over and over again…
How do you motivate someone to make a positive change in their life?
Because here’s the thing. Just about everyone knows WHAT they need to do to improve their life. They usually know HOW to do it. They even know WHEN they want to do it.
They’re just missing one very important thing. Their ‘why’.
And this is a big problem. Because without a powerful ‘why’, changing your behaviour is nearly impossible.
But it wasn’t until I lost my own motivation that I finally understood why starting a new habit is so damn hard.
When I found myself standing at the edge of the lake near my house, thinking about how it would feel to just walk in and never come out again, I knew something had to change.
At the time I had two young kids and felt completely burnt out. My body was a mess. I felt tired all the time, my brain was in a fog and I was carrying an extra 10kg.
I felt like my best days were behind me.
Somehow in the early years of becoming a mum, I had completely lost sight of myself. I realised I had been living my life for the approval of others.
And in the process, I had lost my purpose. I had let my inner fire - that burning passion I had when I was young & energetic working towards my goals - go out.
That crunch point sparked the beginning of my quest to rediscover my purpose.
Since then, I’ve discovered a new level of mind & body freedom for myself.
I’m now approaching 40 and I’m in the best shape of my life…
And now I’m on a mission to help other midlife women rediscover their 20-year-old energy so they can feel strong, confident and live their healthiest life.
So if you’re done with putting yourself last on your priority list and are ready for a reset and refocus, I invite you to download my free 'Finding Your Why’ guide.
If you can give yourself 15 minutes, I’ll help you refocus your goals, reconnect with your values and reignite your motivation so you can take back control over your health.
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